In my previous blog post, I was writing about the illusion of being right. Here I want to share a piece of advice from my past on how to prove yourself wrong. This advice is suggested by my parents, Lev and Svetlana, which exposed my brother Alex and me in our childhood to the songs of Vladimir Vysotsky. One of those songs was the “Song About a Friend.” This song is talking about the awareness of not knowing, and the importance of taking a risk to prove yourself wrong before making a decision with impact on your fellow. This song starts with doubt and question; “If a friend suddenly turns out to be Not quite a friend, not quite an enemy, but just… “. The rest of the song is a perspective, one advice, Vladimir Vygotsky’s suggestion on how to avoid a rush judgment of somebody else actions. Being aware that we can’t know all the reasons that make a fellow to do bad or illogical actions, Emotional Intelligence if you like. Continue Reading A Good Advice From the Past on Trust by Vladimir Vysotsky – Prove Yourself Being Wrong Before Being Right
Sometimes there is no credit for being right.
In many cases, there is a big difference between being right and making the right things happen.
If you see a disaster and you are right about this disaster going to happen, there are few decisions you can take:
1. If you want to be right, if you want the credit (sometimes without even notice) you will be right if you will show that it happened “hey here I told here is the disaster as I told you, it happened, I am right “ – so you were right and here is your credit, but what is the point of this credit?
2. If you want to make the right thing happen, you must to put yourself aside, eliminate the human weakness of wanting to be right, look at the big picture, with you small inside it (not too small, but as little as you really are) be aware of the thinking error in being right and making right things happen. If you do all this, you must know that by making the right things happen you prevent from a disaster to happen, and by doing this you lose the only proof of you being right. And sometimes even you can not be sure that you were right, but if you are focused on the right things to happen, who cares? If the new ways are better(maybe not perfect, or not perfect yet), then screw the old path and the credit. Continue Reading The Illusion of Being Right and The Paradox of Being Right and Making The Right Things Happen